we grow up with mum's who leave us alone when we are ok and who look after us when we are not they make us feel safe and wanted and wrapped up in love but they can also let us fall over and learn and go wandering and experimenting (or at least many of us do)
in a relationship (marriage) I don't see it being a lot different in DBing I think it is important as you have worked out to play 'mother' when the other person is sick and not feeling well
I think you did well to notice that and yes as soon as she is back on her feet you go back to what you were doing if nothing else it will create a little incongruence in her mind and make her wonder its good sometimes to be a little unsure and off-balance
unlike me at the moment I think I am totally off-balance
you know - I kinda worked out a little this morning what I want I want someone to help me feel safe, someone with great cuddles - I want someone who will listen when I have a problem and am not sure what to do - I want a cuddle
