Yeah looks like I'm not to far off from my year mark too. That's amazing. I distinctly remember my first few weeks here. Reading everything, waiting for the book. As is everyone who finds this place, I was a mess. It's hard to believe I've been dbing for almost a year. It's hard to believe my marriage problems have been going on for over two years. That's a long run of celebacy. But looking at others on the board here it's certainly not unusual.
W is pretty sick so that has put a damper on things. Hope she gave it to the evil C.
Expectations can really get to us can't they? Oh well, I'll get over it and keep up the dbing. Perhaps there is opportunity here.
Looks like I'll be in the PNW around the 21st of October. I'll be plenty busy but we'll have to hook up.
I think I detect what I call Annism's. Anne is the evil C and W saw her yesterday. GGGRRRR I hate that bra burning B.
I called her on it though. I'm detecting a little coldness since her visit with the evil C yesterday but it could be the cold. I'll play a little stand offish and see what happens.
Hey Xue, I hope you W feels better soon! Don't worry about the evil C, she doesn't hold a candle to you.
But wait, did I hear you right? 2 years of celibacy? My hats of to you sir, that is truly remarkable. That takes some very committed love and devotion. Not to mention self control.
I wonder if it is cliché that men can't go without and women can. If it is the case, I think I am more "masculine" in my tendencies. Ah well, there you have it.
I’m up too dang late.
Doing better by the way--coming out of the fog, feeling alive again--it's good! Althea
Xue, Looks like I'll be in the PNW around the 21st of October. I'll be plenty busy but we'll have to hook up. Cool, that is one week after our annual Kempo tournament and I'll be done practicing for it. Will have more time. Definitely will make time to meet you.
TD
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Sounds good, I'm figuring out my itinerary now. I'll let you know as soon as I get it figured out.
BJ,
I'm jealous. I want I want I want wa wa wa. Oh well, getting there.
Yeah, Althea got me on the right track as far as the evil C goes. She's nothing.
With W sick this week I've realized more and more how complex this is. I've been playing a bit aloof but quickly realized that when she's sick it's time to turn that around and be there for her. I cooked her home made chicken soup yesterday and she was very appreciative.
But I'll be right back to GAL and a bit aloof as soon as she shows signs of being well. Hey maybe I'm getting this down.
we grow up with mum's who leave us alone when we are ok and who look after us when we are not they make us feel safe and wanted and wrapped up in love but they can also let us fall over and learn and go wandering and experimenting (or at least many of us do)
in a relationship (marriage) I don't see it being a lot different in DBing I think it is important as you have worked out to play 'mother' when the other person is sick and not feeling well
I think you did well to notice that and yes as soon as she is back on her feet you go back to what you were doing if nothing else it will create a little incongruence in her mind and make her wonder its good sometimes to be a little unsure and off-balance
unlike me at the moment I think I am totally off-balance
you know - I kinda worked out a little this morning what I want I want someone to help me feel safe, someone with great cuddles - I want someone who will listen when I have a problem and am not sure what to do - I want a cuddle
