bj is onto something - as are you. Detachment, the LRT are great tools to helping our WAS's realise what can be lost...
It would seem to me that your W is starting to see this. I know my WAW has had these "mini" revelations. They might be small, but they are "additive" meaning they accumulate hopefully to one big "ah-ha!".
Hence too the importance of keeping mildly detached - whenever I seem off to do something that WAW isn't involved, she seems to get closer. Example, I was busting hump on the house this weekend and needed to get started yesterday early. I had already been the store for supplies and back. WAW was pouring some coffee - she saw that I was engrossed with work but says to me in that soft voice, "can you sit with me for a minute". A perfect way to start the day. Cause and effect - I'm on my journey, but I'd be willing to stop for a moment and enjoy the moment. Pre bomb, I don't know that I would have - or I would have put my foot in my mouth and said something stupid like "I really need to get to work". How we learn.
Oh, and of course I took the time to sit and chat....
Keep it up X - the power of the Pheonix my friend.
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
