OK guys this makes not much sense at all. So that means I must be onto something.
A little history.
Something I guess I've neglected to talk about here cause it made no sense. As you all know we have a kinda adopted D17. This is a girl from a really bad background who's been a prize student of mine since she first started a decade ago. She watched lessons for two years because she was to young to start. But when she started she excelled from day one.
Well I always kinda took care of her. At the time of the bomb her sister announced got pregnant at 17 and things got rough for D17. Teenage pregnancy fits exactly into what D17's real mother wants. Puts her in a position of control and it's the way the family has always been.
So anyway W really takes her in right at bomb time. She lives with us part time. W mentioned in counseling that she did this not to be alone with me.
During all this time W has just doted over her. And in my opinion without boundaries. D17 pulls away from her and does something stupid and W is just pulled right in. This has bothered me and in some wierd way I've felt that my W has redirected her love for me to D17. I'm not jealous or resentful of this in any way. Just a wierd thought that something wierd psychologically was going on there. Didn't really get it just a gut feeling.
So also at the time of the bomb W announced she wanted to learn piano. Maybe we all should. I actually started practicing but it made her mad so I stopped. The piano went into storage.
Last couple of days she starts asking me if it would be alright if we bring it back. I say sure and yesterday she hires a piano teacher for *us*.
Last night we're having dinner and talking about this and d17 says " You said two years ago we were gonna learn piano and then you took it away" W looks right into my eyes and says I changed my mind"
Again, I'm not going to attribute any logical meaning to this but I tell you I've got a lot of intuition about it.
So D17 goes out last night. She's staying with us so I can get up way to freakin early and drive her to the ACT exams. We know she hasn't prepared for them but are encouraging any move towards going to college.
So at 2:30 in the morning I'm laying in bed knowing that D17 has not come back. W wakes up and realizes it and we're on an all out search for her. We find her at her loser boyfriends who she has led us to believe she hasn't been seeing.
W is furious and takes her home to her mother. Blows off the ACT's. Says she's never speaking to her again. Now I know she will but she's gonna be mad for awhile. But I'm thinking this is going to set some boundaries.
So I'm laying in bed after all this and i have this incredible intuition that my W is coming back to me soon and this event is going to be a catalyst for it. And strangely it's an emotionally indifferent intuition. Really strange. I just know.
Maybe we just needed a different big mess to handle
So I don't have to drive her to the ACT's anymore so I stay in bed. W has to get up to go teach a big women's self defense seminar.
So here's the biggie and I just knew she was going to do this. I hear the car start and then I hear her come back in. She comes in to give me a kiss and tell me goodbye (and of course a little nagging, need a new term for that). She came out of her way to kiss and say goodbye when she was extremely angry this is highly unusual.
I've noticed other things in the last day also. But that's big.
Yesterday I put on a presentation in front of the town movers and shakers. After we leave she starts telling me how she's going to help me make that presentation better. I ask "It wasn't good?" She says "no it was fantastic but if we just..." I just smile inside.
I think this one is for a female psych, Bj care to have a crack at it. Or not, we can leave it at the mysteries of the female if we want. Don't really care. All I care about is that when you flip the switch, the light comes on.
