My wife has been asking for lessons the past few days. Training pretty hard on her next degree. Lessons have been vey fun. Different. Maybe there is something there. I've noticed lately a lot of her following me. I make all the decisions, even little meaningless ones. Strange how this has evolved. It's been in a few different places. Guess I'm kinda tripping on how not long ago she was rebelling and wanted to be in control of everything. Now she wants me in control. And I notice myself taking control in most things (business relationship, etc) and it just working. No conflict.
Of course when we work out I am the teacher and her the student, she has wanted a lot of that lately. something she has rarely wanted for a long time. I'm thinking the control is part of that. A little astounded by it. Plus the physical part of it all. Lot of touching going on. And it doesn't feel like just another workout partner. This is how we got together in the past.
But tonight she wanted to go up the hill. I don't feel at all bad about this. Said she wanted some privacy to wax her legs. I think she wants to think about the changes going on.
I've done a good job of detaching the last week. Letting her go free. I think it's having an effect. I don't initiate any affection. But tonight on her way out I did. Said "hey aren't you gonna give me a kiss". She was pleasantly surprised by it I think. I think my not initiating has her a bit confused. She gave me a nice kiss.
Somebody sent her flowers today. It was a woman who was just trying to cheer her up because she has had the community put a lot of pressure on her lately. But W came out when they were delivered and was perplexed when she asked me why I got her flowers (before she had opened the card. I can see her really thinking hard. She was happy to get the flowers and made a big deal out of it.
I guess that answers my question as to if I should get her flowers for our anniversary next week. 8 Years next week and I've been struggling over what to do. I figure I'll keep her off balance, keep up my detachment, going dark kinda and then do something really nice and romantic. The contrast at least makes her think.
