Thanks for the suggestion. Maybe something for later. I'm certain that it's not the right time now.
I don't think shaky is the right definition right now, not sure. But confused certainly may be.
I think my wife is wavering a lot in her mind and doesn't know what she wants. So R talks are out I think. I know she really loves me but for some reason she doesn't think she does. If that makes the least bit of sense.