Thanks for stopping in and playing the devil's advocate.
To tell the truth I can't say how the payoff will continue or how to make it continue. Really totally new territory for me. Strange stuff, In the past year I've finally become comfortable with showing my feelings. That was a problem in the past but I'm past that. However what I observe is undisputable. When I said "You can do what you want I'm blowing you off right now" essentially, the reaction was to come to me. When I said "your everything to me" the reaction was to pull away.
Based upon the scientific process ( do more of what works, less of what doesn't) the results are obvious.
When I approach to give a kiss goodbye or goodnight or whatever, the results are less than stunning. When I go to leave without going for a goodbye kiss (which is hard as hell BTW) the results are the opposite.
Last night I said I was going out after the event I had to go to. I help with the local cable station filming. She said "Oh are you going to hang with so and so (the station geek boys)" I said "No we'll be done early and I'm going to head out and have a few beers" (Highly unusual for me). The result was that she rushed out to kiss me (never happened before) and called me first thing this morning just to chat.
Don't know how I can deny what I see here.
No offense, but I don't think you women really want what you say you want. And that has been my mistake.
