huh, you guys are making me think. A lot. Very cool perspective and I like it a lot. You have clarified much for me. I'll keep thinking about this and post my results later.
This morning she is in a lousy mood. D17 is making some bad choices and it's affecting W badly. It's a wierd sitch because she's not really our Daughter. So I think it puts W really has more R's with her (daughter friend, student, employee) and that is confusing for her as she doesn't know which is the dominant R. D17 didn't tell us that she had gotten back together with the loser boyfriend and I think W is hurt most as a friend that didn't get confided in. Not sure. Or she is seeing her own mistakes of youth get repeated. Whichever she is upset and didn't sleep. So this is an opportunity for me to detach. Let her own her feelings and keep myself out of them. I'll be there for her if she wants me but at the moment she doesn't seem to want it so I won't.
