Something that has bothered me for a long time now, probably since we were first married. After just working on Michelle's workbook I think it was brought out to be a little more evident.
Pre engagement our sex life was spectacular. It seemed to fizzle pretty quickly after getting engaged. There were a few comments back then about the fear of commitment
Shortly after getting married when she shut me down for sex she said. No, marriage is serious business. She also said things like "we'll have plenty of time to have sex so why have it now.
Something that really sticks in my mind almost every day is one particular evening. We were at a hotel and we were very excited about an upcoming event. She became very aggressive sexually and said she hadn't been treating me right. She definetely treated me right that night. But the comment afterwards is what got. Immediatly after recovering she got up and said "Oh my god, that was pre-marital"
I'm thinking a lot about this and typing it here has enlightened me more.
So I guess the solution is to release the percieved pressure of marriage. I think I may do that tonight. She seems a little down the last few days and things seem very off track. No apparent reason that I can find but the little affection I had from her went away a few days ago.
I may do something not my predictable self tonight.
