Amazing stuff when you start looking at interactions - the way your W expresses herself and then choose a mode or response that doesn't add fuel to the file.
You sound good - and congrats on the financial situation easing a bit. More good stuff.
Positive mojo your way!
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
Wife and I a re going on a business/pleasure trip to the Grand Canyon tommorrow.
An exciting adventure, buying some property and having some fun. Just her and I and the dog. Hoping it's just what we need to get to where we need to be.
We spent a few extra days. Had a great time. Did a lot of hiking looking at property and bought some acreage. Going to build our High country training facility. Pretty exciting.
Well we slept in the same bed but no sex. Thwarted at least partially by that time of the month.
It really seems more confusing than ever I guess. Things seem to continually get better and better. She calls me honey occassionally now and reaches out to touch me occassionally also. Yet she's holding out. I really don't know what's in her mind.
I have still noticed changes. Over the last couple of days she has snapped at sensitive subjects "Why do you think everything that comes out of my mouth is negative". However she is only mad for a few minutes at these occurrences. She'll ussually take a few minutes to calm down and then things are fine.
These are probably partially caused by the fact that I don't walk on eggshells anymore. I very lovingly tell it like it is. I don't even realize I do it until the snap occurs. I don't think I say things in any sort of blaming way but she is certainly sensitive in these areas. She has stated several times how she is working on becoming more positive and she has made strides.
So I think this is progress.
I help out at the local cable station and was there last night. She called three times. I think my GAL activities make her a little nervous. She's going to her sisters to visit this weekend. I think I'll go out.
I was very proud of her on the trip. She hiked with me in scorching heat for many miles through rugged terain and didn't complain one bit. As a matter of fact she enjoyed it. This is certainly not the city girl I was once married to. She used to bitch about every little discomfort. Getting her out in nature was miserable. But this was a lot of fun. I was flabbergasted. We hiked and four wheeled for several days. Some serious four wheeeling in a monsoon. She had a blast despite the danger and discomfort. I like this new W a whole lot. She's far more of a companion than she ever was. But I also need more than a companion.
Just can't figure it but I also know better than to spend too much energy trying.
wow a little step closer - how frustrating for you sorry had to laugh imagine you GAL and her mind wanders she gotta be careful when you are loose on the world - gotta make sure you have something to come home to so you don't go looking around
you just gotta work out how you are going to make her wanna jump your bones next time
La la la things are a little bit better this really sucks.
oh well, It's actually a good thing I guess. Seems as though fate isn't going to let me off the hook until I'm a totally self realized, actualized guy.
And on that note. I've come to more recent understandings about myself in the past few days. Negative pattern stuff and negative thinking stuff. Stuff that was probably 90% fixed but now that I've come to a better understanding I can figure how to fix it even better. Will post later about it.
Seems there is always another stepping stone.
BJ been meaning to e-mail you some exciting stuff has happened you'd be interested in. Now I have to e-mail you and tell you so I don't keep you in suspense.
