ok, get a grip. my husband of 20 years is leaving me and i am not spinning out of control like this. you can control your actions such as dialing the phone or emailing him etc. do it for yourself and to give your marriage a chance! meanwhile, focus your energy (and i can tell you have a lot) on something positive. take your kids to the park and play with them or read them a book. clean your house, or reshingle the roof. distract yourself, you can do it. let me also share with you a trick that seems to take the edge off for me a little right now. spend your first few waking moments in the morning thinking about your spouse and not in a nice way. think of all the things that are unattractive about him. physically and otherwise. personality quirks that get on your nerves or that others don't like about him. come on, nobody is perfect i am sure you can name a dozen off the top of your head. when we are in situations like this we tend to put our spouse on a pedestal and idolize them because we've been rejected. put that in reverse a bit and convince yourself that you are better than him. just for a few minutes. it helps regain your sense of reality. try it. but don't call him and tell him!!!
