Yes, you let him know how YOU feel Emily. You are not him. If he doesn't give a damn about his girls, you or the little ones, then you can't MAKE him. Venting your frustration at his behavior is not likely to make him want MORE interaction with the family.
Just like with the rest of the marriage issues, there is very little you can do beyond legally making him pay his share. You can't make him see them, OR you. You can't make him want things that he doesn't want.
What you CAN do is allow him to learn to miss them and if you keep calling every 5 minutes to remind him what an a-hole he is being, I somehow he will make time to miss any part of that experience. Let him go Emily. Yelling at him on his VM... do you REALLY think that's going to make him realize all of a sudden that what he is doing is wrong or did you just do it because it made YOU feel better.
You have to start measuring your actions and decisions by that rule. Are you doing whatever just to make you FEEL good at the moment, or NOT feel badly, or is it really going to make a positive impact on your life/sitch?
