I don't want to scare people who are more experienced than me from the pie, as it were, but YOU Emily are such an incredible woman! You're doing fine on your own! That is sooo sweet that you felt pity for him.
If you mean, how to DB this? Validate and listen. Validate, listen and take care of yourself. Try to be detached - I think you already are a little.
May it be eternal while it lasts.
My sitch
Me: 36
H:34
M: 5 years
Bomb: 03/14/06