Found your new thread finally! Not much for advice today, but a good friend of mine said that the healing process NEEDS to take time. That is, don't expect nor try to jump right back in. I think both of you need to work on yourselves yet. Perhaps this is something you can agree to together. That you both continue to work on yourselves - defining yourself into what you want to be while slowly working on your relationship.
Just something to think about. By both of you working on yourselves - you provide a chance for two growing people to come together and have a growing M. A person who is growing is a person that becomes happy. Happiness is acheived through growth. JMO.
Good to see some positives in your sitch. Take care of you and those little angels!
