Just to make myself a little more clear here: I don't think you should just jump right back into the R with H. I do think that you can walk the line, that there is some time and room for you to feel things out. You know yourself better now than you did some time ago, and you know your H better. You can take the time you need to determine what you would need from both yourself and from your H in order to make the M something you would like to re-commit to. Considering your H's job, I think you have plenty of time to think about what you want.
I think people can change. I don't know that your H has - only you can tell. You need to decide for yourself what you want out of marriage, and whether you and your husband can accomplish this together at this point in time. If he's the right one for you, what will it take to get where you want to go? This is ALL about you and what you want out of life. Don't settle for existance, LIVE.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
