Chrome, When you e-mailed me you said you hoped you still had "at least one friend on the board" implying that I might be it. You have many friends on this board Chrome. You have the right kind of friends here, the ones who tell you what you NEED to hear not what you want to hear.
Since you agreed with my use of the term adoration when I suggested that that is what you are seeking I will expound further.
Adoration is the love an infant feels towards and from its mother. Or it should do in a healthy mother/baby relationship. If there is any form of interruption to this process then the infant is left feeling a craving for adoration. Judging by what you have told us of your FOO I feel that this is highly likely to have been the case for you. Adult romantic relationships mirror the growth of childhood. The early heady days mirror the adoration phase of infanthood. The terrible twos mirror the early separation/teething problems apparent in most Rs, if the R settles down from this there usually follows a calm and fairly matter of fact period (similar to middle childhood). Then we get to adolescence, I believe most of us on this board are in the "adolescent" phase of our Rs. Romance junkies like yourself Chrome are craving the early stage adoration phase of a relationship. Do you want to remain forever an infant?
I hope the C and MC stuff goes well.
All the best
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
