Sorry guys...been pretty busy here the past few days and unable to post. I have been reading all of it though, and I appreciate all the input.
I DO know that divorce hurts kids, even though my parents are still married. I've seen it; heck, my best firend's parents even managed to drag me into it on occasion. I've seen what divorce does to kids, and I never wanted to put my own son through it. I'll do my best every day and hope it's enough to give him a secure future, one full of happiness.
That's where I really don't think we're going to get along JokerMan. You say that happiness is NOT a right, that it's a bonus. Isn't happiness something to fight for, though? I mean, if not for striving to make life as good as it can be every day, then what should my reasoning be? As I say, we're simply not going to agree on this, and I don't think we have to. It doesn't come down to who is right and who is wrong....it's not that black and white. Laissez faire - let the people choose. If you choose to live a life in which you accept happiness when it comes to you, then kudos to you; it's your life and I applaud your selflessness. But my life isn't lived by the same rules.
And perhaps it's good that you note the similarities between myself, dexter, and your OW. We have a different worldview, one that doesn't coincide well with yours...but does that make us wrong? Perhaps because we each disagree with society's rules and have all found a similar way to voice our unique perspective. Perhaps we are predisposed to being OM/OW because we refuse to live harmoniously within the system. I firmly believe that there is no "one right way" to live, and that simply because this is right for you doesn't mean it's right for me, or for dex, or for your OW.
