Dexter,
****But we must all remember that it will not work for every one and sometimes a M is over no mater how hard we try

The first step to knowledge is to know we know nothing. Agree???

If so then both spouses need to try and shed any preconcieved notions.

I was convinced my marriage was over, but I still had the OW in my life clouding my view. Once I got her out of my life, I began to think much more clearer, like the old jokerman.

You can fall in love with anyone. Love is a choice. I have choosen to try to love my wife. I don't now, but I look forward to the day that I do.

Now I do agree that physical or sexual abuse should NEVER be tolerated and divorce is the solution.