****It is an unending strugle to live your life the way you want it.
I think our differences all boil down to this. There was a point in time that I DID NOT want to live with my W. I was HAPPY living with the OW.
For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. For every decision we make, it will effect others. We do not live in a vacum of our own lives and our own decisions.
When people simply strive for their happiness without considering the impact on others....well to be blunt that is selfish.
The OW in my life had the same philosphy that you do. I made her happy. She wanted me at all costs. You know what those costs were???? My wife, my kids, my house, my money, possibly my job.
She did not care that not only I was going to lose all that, but the impact on my kids, the impact on my wife, the impact on my family.
There is NOTHING wrong with wanting to be happy, but you have to consider the consequences for others.
Let's consider life if EVERYONE had the worldview you do.
There would be no D-Day at Normandy...I can't image it would make the soldiers happy to die.
There would be no soup kitchens...I can think of tons of things I would rather do to make me happy other than giving soup to a bunch of smelly bums.
Not sure if you are a Christian or not but.
There would be no salvation. I'm sure Christ would have been happier not being strapped to the tree.
I could go on and on, but I won't.
Happiness is a good thing, but not at others expense. That is not happiness. That is a selfish false happiness and you are cheating yourself out of the true happiness life has to offer.
