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My girlfriend won't let me touch her "down there". She thinks its gross. I thought a vibrating cock ring would be a "work around" solution since I wouldn't have to touch her.

Has anyone tried this? Do you recommend any certain product?

I tried a cheap one for $10, but it didn't seem to help her much.

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Never tried it. Sounds like there are bigger issues to tackle here. How does your gf get excited if there is a "no touch" policy?

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Johnny,

If she thinks it's gross down there she has much bigger issues at play than worrying about a cock ring. Women who are comfortable with their bodies and sex...don't think it's "gross down there."

How does she manage to O? Or does she? It's my guess...she doesn't but that you are wanting to use this device to get her to. Am I correct? If she's too uptight about sex...you won't get her to "O".

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GEL -

She's 38 years old so her feelings about "down there" and sex in general kind of being gross are not likely to change for awhile.

She had O during intercourse during the first months of our relationship. Since then, 2 years later she's only "O" during the middle of the night when I've used my fingers and she's half alseep.

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Johnny...

True her feelings may not change...until she deal with whatever it is that makes her feel that way. How did she react when you used the ring on her?

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Quote:

she's only "O" during the middle of the night when I've used my fingers and she's half alseep.


Setting yourself up for trouble there, my friend. How did you know if she was "half asleep"? If you did it while she was fully asleep, that's pretty violative, if you ask me. I'd focus on dealing with her level of discomfort directly, rather than to try to sneak under the radar.

Hairdog, whose W has accused him of sexual assault, when she woke up to find him fondling her breast...and he thought she was "half awake" and okay with it.


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Excellent point Hairdoggie!


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She didn't mind the ring. Her first reaction was "what is that thing?

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Yes, she knew what I was doing. We talked about directly and honestly. She was aware, she's just so uncomfortable about sex that she acted like she was asleep. She has a tough time talking about. It makes her feel bad about herself. She's tried a therapy, but only half-hearted.


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