I read about a new lube. I believe it is called vibrel. It is supposed to increase sensation and lube at the same time. Haven't tried it. I concur with the mixing it up a bit. I used to have a lot of pain with ex-H. It had nothing to do with size and a lot to do with anxiety because the R had problems and not enough lubrication and a general lack of trust of him. I'll bet if you back off the intercourse and improve the relationship there will be a lot less pain involved. Like HP I will still get sore if H and I have had a lot of activity but it is a good sore not an unpleasant one.
