JAG_06. I am 62 and have been working with my W concerning a lack of her natural lubrication and recently vaginal pain.
The best thing I did was to start using Astroglide. We tried KY from the tube=OK; KY Warming=just fair, its not all that luby/slipery; and the Astroglide=I really like it and my W said it was better than the others.
IC 2X a day. Wow. JAG, from what I hear some women are built or have the ability to do IC for a couple of hours. I said some.
From the TV program on the Oxygen network on Sunday evening, "Talk Sex With Sue" program. some women can take only 10 minuets of thrusting, and that is once a day.
My advice is try the basic Astroglide (WalMart about $7)and see what that does.
My W complains a lot. If I use a lot of Astroglide it is messy. If I don't use enough, IC becomes painful. bottom line, use the amount that causes the least amount of pain.
I wish I would have found Astroglide sooner.
Any urinary tract infections (UTI's) history or history of her taking antibiotics? Medications? That is another can of worms
How should I bring this up with her? Buy it and tell her you need to try it because she is chaffed/in some pain after having IC.
Being honest and non-judgmental works. What does not work is making excuses, skirting the issue, talking around the issue. Start with an attitude this is going to a good thing for both of us and assume there is an unwritten rule of good will and you have the best of intentions for both of you in anything you do.
