Hello all, I want to thank everyone for their responses and honesty.

I just keep reading that I am not suppossed to accuse unless I have proof. What if I am wrong? Has that been anyone's mistake?

What if I am paranoid and he is not cheating?

I also have been reading that I am not suppossed to snoop but how else does a person find out?

All I know is that my marriage is not in a good place and hasn't been for a while. I also know, if my H is cheating, I am at least half responsible. I don't know what he found that attracted him to her. It could be anything. I don't know how to get past this, since he hasn't, nor will, apologize even for the kiss I did witness. If he won't apologize for something he knew hurt me, then how can I ever move forward?

The woman he kissed comes back from vacation soon and what if he chooses to visit her?

I am in such a fricking conundrum that I have no clue how to precede. How can I precede with any action if I am not even sure?

Anyone out there who had an unfaithful spouse how in the world did you deal with it?

Anyone who cheated and had the courage and guts to reply, I thank you!!