Wow! That was a lot of questions all at once. I can only offer this small piece of advice. My H is a chronic cheater and liar....and one of the greatest guys in the world. Everybody loves him. He had an entirely separate life. His life here with me and the kids and his secret life with various OW.
Can a marriage survive infidelity? Absolutely. The key is, BOTH parties have to want it to survive. The cheater has to show true remorse and STOP the cheating and the offended spouse has to make a decision to truly forgive the transgression. If either of those are missing, you might as well throw in the towel.
Sorry. Just my opinion.
I wish you well.
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
