I just have a few questions for the men on this forum who have cheated.
Does the marriage ever work after you cheat?
What got your attention the most, that your spouse did, when you were in the A and wanted a D?
What are the subtle signs to look for if I think my H is cheating?
What were some of the things you said while you were in the A before your spouse knew?
What should I look for when I think he is cheating?
Does the spouse have any hope of capturing the love of the cheater?
How did you act before or during the affair?
I already know about the signs of hang-ups, longer hours, cell phone calls, over-time, but I mean the ones before it can even be noticed. The very slight, subtle, undetected signs of infidelity?
My H is excellent at hiding stuff and I am going crazy. He tells me "She's a friend", I'm crazy, it's my imagination and on.
I just need to know so I may have some inner peace. I know this may be hard for any spouse to admit or reveal but please if you have any answers I sure could use them.
And as a cheater if you have any ideas on 180's for the non-cheating spouse that would be helpful too.
I want my marriage to work but if my H is addicted to the OW can it ever really be worked out? Would I ever be enough for him if he is used to someone I can't compete with? What if she is younger, prettier, smarter, richer (I am a stay at home mom), funnier, cuter, sexier and ect..? What hope do I have of ever being able to compete with that? Is it ever worth it? Does a Spouse of cheater ever get over it? Will the cheater ever again be faithful and loyal? Is there ever any hope for the non-cheater to be able to let go? For the moment I despise my H and am so afraid I will never let go of that. I GAL but i am beginning to want him out. Do the cheaters ever, ever realize the pain the Other spouse goes through? The feelings of inadequacy, of loneliness, of an all consuming sorrow and sadness, of the feelings of total loss of any self-esteem. Can you offer any tidbits of information in a way that may save countless marriages when there is infidelity involved?
