Quote: Switching modes can be very hard and it takes a lot of focus to stay on track.
EXACTLY HG...that's why I keep telling you to focus on YOU...not her. For you, learning to behave differently IS going to take focus..if you keep getting sidetracked by rescuing her...or worrying about how she'll react...you take the focus off of working on YOU.
The only way she'll learnto rescue herself...or work her way out of her emotional issues is for you to back up and stop rescuing her. Then most likely she'll eventually step up and begin to sort through her own stuff...what alternative does she have? It's either you keep rescuing her, she gets to stay in her comfy zone...and nothing is ever resolved....or you backoff, work on HG, she sits in her own uncomfortable spot...and hopefully eventually decides she doesn't like that spot enough to do something about it.
Hang in there...it's hard to change the habits you are working on, but you're getting there.
