Ok, Actually, I am notorious for that in all other aspects of life.. although I have not really thought about it in terms of relationship stuff. Interesting point.
I just get frustrated and inmpatient... I am a guy... I want to fix things. I want to turn the screw and make it better..arg arg arg (Tim the Toolman grunts). I know the woman I married. I want to be with that woman again like you cannot believe and for years I have been stuck with this downer negative person. I can see what she is inside and I love that person, but she cannot see that person. She is stuck in her low self esteem and worthless place.
I know I can be over zelous in my efforts...I don't really mean to, again I just want to fix it.
I know... sex is the least of my problems right now. But as she is coming to terms with reality, I want her to know that it is important to me. I don't want her to finally get through the depression thinking I am fine without sex only to discover that I really am not. I want her to have all the facts straight going in, so there are no surprises.
If she rejects me, then she rejects the REAL me, not someone she thinks that I am, because I haven't been honest about what I think is right in a marriage. That's one of the reason's I thought to bring up the sex thing at this particular time.
