Don't ever, ever, ever, ever, again degrade yourself into having mercy sex. Ever. Don't do it. I don't care how turned on you get by flesh. Go to the bathroom and take care of business. That fish ain't flying with me, fella. Yeah, you got a whole lot more control than that. Use it.
And I would, in a heartbeat, use that disgust against her.
"Are you fcking joking? If you think I ever wanted that way, you are insane. Though your ass does look heavenly... have you been working out?"
And I'd walk out of the room.
Number two: you are not Dr. Fix It. Read Lil's thread. You cannot fix another. Period. Ever. You can only point to a problem so another can see it for themselves. And that 'pointing' includes being YOU and firmly being YOU, with all boundaries included... and you leave them the heck alone.
She will not deal with her depression until 1) she can recognize it and own it, and 2) til she is dam good and ready. It could very well be she is using it as a crutch and a weapon against you... so be prepared.
SEX is the LEAST of your problems right now, buddy. Get that?! LEAST. Ain't even in the fcking ballpark right now, HG. Not even close.
Get OVER yourself and scheduled sex. You need to head into radical honesty... which I think Mrs. NOPs has posted about. Read up on IT.
