Oh, and one more thing. For those of you with kids, I know I have posted this before, but do you ever have the sense that they are actually in league with the devil to break up your marriage. I know psychologists and parents from the beginning of time have gone WAY out of their way to tell the kids it's not their fault, and in the abstract, down and dirty sense, it's not but I can tell you that whether my boy's behavior is BECAUSE of our issues, or a totally separate issue in itself, it IS having an effect on my W and I and our R. We are fine when they go to bed and those rare occasions when we get out without them, but they are at a stage now where they are a handful and a half, especially S3 and it is taking it's toll on my W and I.
I know it's a fact of life and please, no matter how that sounded, I am NOT blaming my kids for our marital problems, merely saying that through no fault of their own, they aren't making it easy to be "happy" together since a lot of our time is spent on edge about what's next.
I guess for me in particular, it's yet another exercise in patience and "not sweating the little things" but for my W, spending all day with them since they are still out of school, those "little things" add up really quickly and she is in a horrible mood by the time the day is done.
Anyway, sorry to dump my parenting issues here. I think once school starts again and we work out a discipline scheme that will curb some of S3's worst offenses, we'll be fine. I guess I am just selfish in that I would LOVE to have some normal "day" time to be with my W without them demanding 100% attention.
There, my time's up. Sorry for the rant. There are MUCH worse problems in the world so let's get back to solving THOSE.
