I know your not here but I just had to say this. We are mirror images of eachother as far as intimacy goes:
Quote: I don't know how long this went on, her trying to "do" for me, or touch me, and me "rejecting her". I never saw it that way until C told me that's likely what W felt...damn, I see that now and that must have been REALLY hard for her, making her feel like I didn't like her to touch me, or that she was doing something wrong, when all I was trying to do was make her happy.
I NEVER let my H do anything that would give me pleasure. I somehow felt to guilty or that I didn't deserve it. I ALWAYS said, "That's ok, you don't have to do that - let me do this for you instead" BIG mistake, I see that now. This led my H to probably feel inadequate and not good enough. And this went on for years........
So yes, I will take my share of the blame in this dynamic. On the other hand I would have like it much better if he sat me down and told me how he felt so rejected instead of running to the arms of OW....
