Whatisis (and BTW, DAMNIT, I meant to leave!!! lol),
Quote: GAL certainly helped me and I did offer to leave tasks for her but, funny, she never wanted to do them???. It's also maddening for the w because everyone is always telling her what a great husband she has, how can you be mad at such a great guy!He does everything for you. It creates resentment.
I think, in my case at least, the "letting her do for me" part is almost exclusively for the intimacy/affection part of our R. I left TOO much for my W to "do" for me in terms of the house, kids, etc. I actually needed to pick up the slack on that end. I know she is a stay-at-home-mom but that is a REALLY hard job (trust me, I know. I've been with them alone for a day here and there...I love em, but God knows how she does it 24/7) and she deserves to get more from me in terms of help than I was giving.
So, like I said, in MY sitch, my W doesn't need me to leave her more to do in many other areas than personally stuff, mainly expressions of physical affection.
As for the great guy thing, well, I get that too, or should I say my W does. As you all know, I can do a great job of selling myself, i.e. to the rest of the world, I am a great H. Actually, I AM a great H, but my W sees sides of me that few other people (other than you all) ever see. I think when she tries to tell them, it sounds like whining, which it may be, but I know from my own introspection that she has a legit beef in a lot of cases... or she DID anyway.
Now I can wear my super-hubby cape with pride, lol. Kidding. Still a HUGE work in progress even to be a worthy side-kick let alone a super-hero.
