Right on Gh! I too am a "doer". I always thought that by doing so many things to keep her stress level down I was being good and loving. In fact, as she pointed out, it made her feel like she wasn't a participating member of the family! I was always "fine", "I'm OK" etc. too. It is very difficult to make that change but when your "helping" is hindering the relationship then it s time for some change. GAL certainly helped me and I did offer to leave tasks for her but, funny, she never wanted to do them???. It's also maddening for the w because everyone is always telling her what a great husband she has, how can you be mad at such a great guy!He does everything for you. It creates resentment. So I like your willingness to accept your part. Way to go. Maybe that's your db'ing assignment, to let her do for you. We can't complain that someone doesn't do anything for us when we don't let them. Have a good break away from us.Unfortunately, we'll all probably be here when you get back next week!
