You know, GH, some "experts" say that it's the WAS's job to reassure the LBS at this point. All previously hidden means of conducting the A should become transparent and available to the LBS to reassure them. This is only food for thought, because I know this thinking isn't really in line with yours, but your W could get a very positive sense of contributing to the M through her reassurance to you.
I agree with WhatIS that your W seems to have a very entitled attitude (not sure if this is just the way you present her to us) that is demonstrated in the way she confronts you about the phone issue. I think this comes down to the underlying issue of the distribution of "power" in the R. I don't think that she has any sense that she will "push you away" and this might be important. I get the sense that she thinks she can do whatever she wants to and the M wont suffer or end. How about putting the impetus on HER to fix it, to give you a plan that you can hold each other accountable to? She's a person, like you are, and yet you treat her like you worship her while she doesn't do the same. Was it OT who said "don't be more in the R than they are"? I think that holds true now.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
