GH, Sounds like you made it through the phone thing. But, your w seems to lack understanding as to why you may still be a little jumpy. To say "are you going to get angry every time my phone rings" is very confrontative and lacks empathy. Can you tell her what approach would work best for you if she feels the need e.g. I know this has been hard on you but ...." or whatever would be less combatative. She talks about your anger but sets up your reaction (not that you aren't responsible for your reaction but..). She wants immediate and total trust just like that. It's not realistic. Again, actions speak louder than words. She has to prove to you that she means what she says. She's not getting that. Anybody else have any ideas out there? Lastly, you snooped. BIG DEAL. I would be doing the same, right or wrong. Just don't let snooping become your new GAL activity!! All the best.
