Thanks all, and to those who say expect the lows/worst, I assure you I do, and please, don't take this the wrong way (as if I think all this is my fault or something) but I mainly expect the worst from me and my overactive imagination. I also know my W may very well flip on me again but WTH, I had to DO something.

We had an interesting little exchange last night, one I THINK I finally played right. At about 11:30pm her phone rang (wow, she actually had it in the house charging all night... hasn't done THAT in a long time). Oh, and you are going to mini-slap me in a sec...be warned...and I think you can see it coming.

Of course it got my attention. Immediately W walked over (we were both talking in the kitchen right next to the phone) and looked at the caller id then hung up. She said it was GF that we went out with in the day most likely trying to confirm plans for tomorrow (today). Right as she was saying that it rang again and "she" left a message. W listened to it and said "true to form, she wanted to know if we were going or not tomorrow and said she expected to hear back from me but didn't."

Now, I know what you all are thinking...me too. I'm sure my face registered my suspicion. I didn't say anything and tried to play along with the "GF" story. W went into a lot of extra drama about how this GF calls all the time, etc. It SEEMED like someone telling too much detail because it's a lie. Damn, I hate thinking that all the time. SO, she left the room and guess what? I looked. For ONCE, snooping didn't hurt me. I didn't see his name OR her name. I didn't actually snoop the right place and once I figured that out, I decided that it was wrong to look and stopped. Slap away though because the intent was there.

I was VERY close to just asking/confronting her. I did not.

I saw W one more time and went up to bed. I had said goodnight earlier so this wasn't a big deal.

When I was getting ready for bed I was still seriously thinking about saying something but I decided that even if it was him, I had NO idea why he was calling and if W had brought her phone in, she must not have been expecting him to call, or she didn't seem to worry about what I thought if he did. In any event, I decided that I would just go to bed and try to put it out of my mind.

About 10 minutes later W comes up to the bedroom, stands next to the bed and says...

w: Are you going to get upset now every time my phone rings?
M: No, and I'm not upset now either (which by then was pretty much true) and even so, I don't really have a chance to get upset or not because your phone has been living in your car.
W: Well, why would I need to leave it there now. I don't have any reason to do I?
M: No, I guess not.
W: Ok, I just don't want to go back to that. I don't want to start that again.
M: Me neither.

It was almost like she knew what I was thinking but for the first time SHE didn't just ignore it. If you remember the other day I asked her to just say something if she thought I was going to think badly about something, i.e. her phone being off, etc, and MAYBE she actually heard that because this was highly unusual for her. Normally she would have just let it go once I went to bed but instead she chose to try to reassure me.

I am still not convinced it wasn't him but I am a little more convinced that if it was, it wasn't to set up their next date.

When she came to bed, she made an exaggerated effort to curl up close to me . Again, if I didn't know better, it was as if she actually LISTENED to me when I said I felt love from physical proximity. Hmmmm...

Oh, and one more thing... Right before that phone incident, we were talking in the kitchen about her ring and whether she should wear it to the gym and risk it getting scratched. She thought she should and I said with a BIG grin "Hell yes you wear it there... ESPECIALLY to the gym." We both knew why I said that. She smiled.

Thanks again for all your well wishing and caution advising. Both are well received.

GH

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