Hi Amy, I think your input is pretty valuable here! The gist is that GH should back off and give his w space. She is grieving a loss and it may be too soon to expect anything else from her. Am I on track here? What is the difference between giving space and the Last Resort tactic? Some of what you've advised I find kind of anxiety provoking, but maybe that's cuz it hits home for my sitch, I don't know. Obviously GH's w is staying, why we don't really know (or at least I don't, maybe I missed something). Is it cozy and comfortable? Is it the kids? Is it money? GH wants it to be for love (of course!) but he can't seem to get a handle on it.That creates ANGER. Maybe she doesn't even know. So I think you are right, give her space but how much is up to GH and what he can deal with and for how long. When I started giving my w "space" e.g. not checking in with her, waiting for her to come to me etc she decided to start an affair (maybe she would have anyway???). Could too much space start GH's wife thinking he doesn't care anymore and drive her back to the OM? I'm kind of clueless on this one. What do others think. I'm leaning towards the middle ground. Space, yes, but how much? From yours and other posts it sounds like others think he should go all the way (sorry GH, I'm not talking bedroom here!)Oh, this does tax the old brain, doesn't it.
