Hi GH I just want to say that any advice you recieve on this board is but the opinion of each individual. You have to do what you feel best for your situation because you have to live with the result, noone else here does! I began putting limits on my w, for example, she wanted us to go on a extended vacation to visit her family and I said I would not go. She was welcome to go with the kids but I did not feel right about playing the happy hubby for her family. I also made it clear that my plans e.g. classes etc. were important for me and I would not be missing them to fit her plans any longer. I also told her that from now on when she pisses me off, I'm telling her. No longer was I going to sit on things because she seemed so stressed etc. I now tell her in a constructive and polite manner and, yes, it drives her nuts but too bad! Please remember GH that you also have your children to consider and anything you choose to do effects them as well. It's easy to say walk away and let her miss you but she isn't the only one who would suffer. I'm in that boat too and my kids say that I am their hero because I don't give up (they know mom and dad are having problems and I try to quell their anxieties which I do, of course, alone)that means the world to me. I know myself there is a whole bandwagon out there telling me to get the hell out, you've done enough etc. but I must do what I believe right, just as you must. Take us all with a grain of salt!
