Quote: that's the thing...my life, contrary to many of the sitches here...is for the most part, REALLY nice. Fake, but really nice too.
GH, this really struck me and describes my sitch to a tee! the difference for me is that while your wife is at least somewhat honest about her feelings my H is not at all. I would welcome the chance to talk to my H about things.
I am sorry you feel like you are back to "square zero". You can be thankful that you are able to have dialog with your W about your problems.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011