BTW, yesterday morning I asked said, very matter of factly, because that was how I was thinking about it, that I was confused by something. She lost her engagment ring some time ago and has been talking about replacing it. Even on Sunday when we were at the mall, she dragged us into a jewelery store and looked at a ring.
So I asked W "I am curious and confused about something and in light of our upcomming anniversary, I wanted to get it clarified. You STILL keep looking at rings despite all that is going on. I have to admit to you that this ring thing is one of the things that has gotten me upset over the past couple days because before last night happened, I had been planning on replacing your ring for our anniversary. (she mumbled something about money). Money is not the issue. We can afford it and you know it. The issue is that it seems totally inappropriate right now. Am I wrong? I would like to know what your thoughts are on this before that time comes."
She remained silent. She knew what I was asking and so did I. Was it more passive/aggressive stuff? Dunno. It was the truth. We already laid all the rest out the night before so WTH.
Yesterday, in the middle of dinner with the boys, and on purpose at that time, I told W "Just so you know I am above board with this and not trying to start anything, I want to let you know that I DO want to know what's up for next month. Please, think about it and let me know what you feel would be best for us to do for our anniversary. I can't say I will agree, but I would like to know your thoughts."
She said she WOULD think about it, thanked me for being "normal" about asking her and doing it directly, and we went on having a nice dinner...and nice night...and nice morning...that's the thing...my life, contrary to many of the sitches here...is for the most part, REALLY nice. Fake, but really nice too. Ah, such tangled webs we weave.
