GH, Thanks for checking in. You are ALWAYS here so it is very disheartening not to see you around. In any case, I really feel for you. Why is it that we can see all the potential of your M and your W cannot. Maybe she needs to feel what it is like without you. I really like the no more backrub rule (I did mention this before) but why should she get to feel good when you cannot? Start doing things with your kids without her. Don't even tell her what you are doing. The logistics may be difficult but I'm sure you can do it. I have been doing this lately. On the one hand my H is a little miffed that he wasn't invited and on the other he seems genuinely sorry that he wasn't there. She needs to feel life WITHOUT you. You are so accomodating to her that she doesn't realize the impact of D. Hang with us. Go dark on your W if you have to BUT (I know you hate that word) don't go dark on us. Vent. We have all come to care deeply about you and your sitch, please don't leave us in the dark.
