Hi GH I'm not a poster (until now) but I check in for inspiration. Your input to this board is amazing. Alot of people are rooting for you! I know what you are going through. In my case, my w told me she was confused, didn't know what to say or do, etc when we spoke of her affair (I thought that meant there was hope!)Months later she told me she was sorry I misunderstood and there really was no hope for us. She said she was totally committed to the other relationship! I won't even go into what a ridiculous statement that was because this is your sitch not mine. My point is that our spouses say and do all sorts of over the top things and it hurts like hell BUT don't ever take anything as pure truth because they don't know what truth is at this point. Despite this, in the past month my w and I have been closer than we have been in years.We've even spent a day at the beach together w/o the kids, at her suggestion!Her A continues but very minimally and I believe if I continue to work there is still hope. GH keep working at it, don't let her "gospel according to infidelity" rule what you do. She's still there, right? I've also been told that I accomidate my w way too much but, you know, that just means there is still room for some more dbing doesn't it. It means there is still something to be tried. I too had a big blowout with my w and tore her and her pathetic relationship to shreds! Was it a db thing to do? Maybe not, but since then life has been much better around my place. Actually this "blowout" was a big 180 for me so if you said what needed to be said then maybe it was for you too. Take care and take heart.
