Glad to hear your H came to church. He obviously feels a certain shame and guilt and wants to make it right. By all means, let him do this. It's for himself at the moment and has nothing to do with you. He wants to find his peace also. He knows he has screwed up and he wants forgiveness from his heavenly Father, then he can work on forgiveness from you. Snooping is normal, trust has been broken and there is no reason for you to believe a word he says, I understand that because I'm the queen of snoop. But your right, the only thing this does is to make matters worse and causes your imagination to run wild. My H had an A, the expensive dinners, the gifts, the cards, they are not separate violations, it is one in the same. That's what you have to understand, it is all bundled together in one package so forget the past, you can't change it, you can change what happens today and what happens tomorrow so work on the present and the future.
