yea sandy, everytime my w flip floped it hurt, but i did not give up on her, i thought about it many times, but i didnt and now i am glad i didnt, my sitch is alot better and my m is off and running again. it takes alot out of us, but if you decide to save your m, then you need to let go and be happy again, with them still comming around, other wise they will never see your changes, thats why i am telling emily to let him come over, have a great time without any expectations. sooner or later that will have to take place, only emily can decide if that is this weekend or next or when ever she can handle it. i really think she is stronger then what she tells us, she found us didnt she. and i think all of last week was just her venting because he flopped back to ow, like we all would. emily tell us if this is true?