Moving Along OR Just Spinning My Wheels?

[Sandy_wants_to_try]

shippd, Actually we did separate as soon as he flip-flopped. He needed time to figure himself out... who am I to tell him that's wrong?
I always though the best part of Dbing is one that's not mentioned that much - Take care of yourself. If that means placing boundaries to protect your mental health so be it.
For me at least, that was saying no to flip-flopping

I agree you don't throw them out because they flip-flop, no. BUT you do realize that that while they're doing that, they're not growing. They're not figuring out what's really wrong. They're still blaming us.
I don't want my H to flip-flop. I want him to come to a decision through a hard process of self-knowledge. He has to learn about himself and come to that decision. I don't want him until then, No. Because I deserve more. I deserve to be with him when he's figured out that he wants to be married to me. Not while he's not sure.

Everytime your W flip-flops, you're fine with that? You don't hurt all over again? Does she grow as a person as she flip-flops? Can you really tell me you have 0 expectations when she flip-flops?