so hes flip flopping, my wife did your husband is, they all do. one day my wife said she was leaving, the next day she wasnt, did i throw her out because of what she said yesturday, nope, and neither would you. we all look for possitive signs, WE ALL DO, and emily just had a possitive sign today, emily run with that, just dont get your hopes up. you have to learn to get along with each other, what ever happens to your marriage. i have thought all along that your marriage was not over, and i still believe this. your husband does love you, you know that, he is just making bad decisions, but maybe just maybe he might have woke up today, and today will be the day he starts making good decisions, dont you want to be there with him? i think you do!!