emilys husband is not putting her through anything. she controls her own emotions. you should know that. all i am saying is she can learn to enjoy his company without any expections, knowing that he may flip flop back and fourth between them both. and as db states, they can not do anything to you unless you allow them to. she can show him compassion, and love that she has for him, come on thats the whole princible we agree in here. to work on yourself, dont relie on your s for your attitude and life. emily having him come over for a few hours to see his children and yes her is not a bad thing. yea he is still confused but wtf they all are. if your husband called and wanted to come by for a few hours you would allow him to right. and yes you will have expectations that maybe just maybe he will want to stay forever and never leave you again, come on amy you know that. emily let him come over, have no expectations, remember he might leave your place and go see ow, just be yourself, be happy, give him something to think about, because it will take many more visits before he is really ready to work on the marriage, and the same is with you.
