Shippd, I can't speak for everyone, but... The reason is that they're not ready. Only a few days ago her H was threatening her and left with OW. Only a few days ago, her posts were so filled with young emotion and desperation, to then go to accusations of physical violence, to then finally start to see what she has to do. She was considering dating all of a sudden. She wasn't thinking for herself and reacting with anger instead of owning her actions. They're very young. It seemed like a high school love drama, not a marriage with kids who will suffer.
The reasons why her H left are still there. Why would anything be different if he suddenly came home. Why should she believe him now? What has changed that will make this different? It would be great if they could DB while together, but she has shown us that she still in a lot of turmoil. That's not a good place to be to DB sucessfully.
I completely understand why she wants at least 5 minutes of happiness with him. I may have done the same thing at that age. It's romantic, it's passionate...
We're just the ol' farts who can see things coming and want to spare her the pain. But you're right, maybe she has to go through it.
May it be eternal while it lasts.
My sitch
Me: 36
H:34
M: 5 years
Bomb: 03/14/06
