why do we post to emily differently then we do other people? is it because she is so young, is it because the way she post to us? her wah is no different then all our was, he is confused just like all of them. would you tell someone else to not have good contact with no expectations. i think she should have contact with him, but not have any expectations, and no r talk. just have fun and enjoy each others company. emily is going to have alot of time finding herself while he is on the road. you did say that he will only be home 4 days a month right? thats 26 days a month you have to detach and gal, and find yourself. yea this is fresh news, and yes i thinks its good news, so why not run with it, with out too much expectations, if your WAS wants to see you and misses you that is not a bad thing, if done right. emily you know what you need to do to fix your problems you brought to the marriage, you still need to work on those issues, and yes your husband needs to work on his, which it sounds to me he is making this first steps towards doing just that. hell he called his mother and had her go get his things for the ow, thats big news, thats a good step. take things slow, spend some time together, do not talk about the r or marriage, and defently do not throw up his affair in his face. he ended it, let that be for now, thats all you need to know. im shaking my head right now wondering why everyone thinks this is not good news for emily. i must be crazy but i thought we were trying to help everyone save thier marriages, not help them destroy them. hes taking another look, so let him look if that is what you want, which by the way i think you do, hell last week i even told you you did, remember i told you that you would take him back in a heart beat.