Moving Along OR Just Spinning My Wheels?

[Sandy_wants_to_try]

I am interested to see what you all have to say about what shippd said.
I mean now that they have both said their R is over . . . I would like to see him and just see if he and I can get along for at least a few hours.
I want to see him and see how I feel about him.
But if that's not the best course of action I will send him packing down the road to "her".

You're not sending him packing to her, you're sending him packing to... himself. He needs to be alone for a while. You both need to time to detach and think about this.
Do you understand that HE's not ready. Neither are you - and you get that. But, understand that just breaking it off with her doesn't mean he's all better now.

I agree with Amy in that I don't think you're ready yet. I think you have to be stronger in looking out for yourself and learning the lessons from this.
Despite this, in your position, I would probably let him see the girls. But I would cut it short - say, half an hour, with other "plans" that you had already made. Then a friendly hope to see you soon and out the door he goes.

If you let him back (and I say if, because you decide what you do), you guys have to go to counseling independantly and try to grow up independantly. Or else this will just happen again down the road.
Neither of you have really learned much from this experience. You have, probably more than he has, but he has to come to the conclusion that his happiness doesn't depend on you.

And there is still so much hurt possible in the sitch, can you honestly say you're strong enough to deal with it?