amy: thats whats so nice about this forum, it is the differnce of oppion. and yes it is up to emily to decide as to what is the best way to go about it. just as much of a week and a half ago the only problem emily had was forgiving him for his affair. because he seemed to want to work on thier marriage. now when he stopped for the first time emily lost hope of saving her marriage, i think that was good for them, because now she can forgive him. before she didnt have the choice he was there and wanting to work it out with her. if you were always mean to your husband would he come back to you? im not saying for her to move him back in and go on as if, all i am saying is this would be a great test for emily to work on herself by showing herself that they could be together for a small period of time without fights and anger. yes only she needs to do this, make that decision, and i know she could do this. lets face it, he is not quiting on thier marriage, he is confused, just like emily is, and they both need good interaction together. maybe only a couple of hours, maybe more. amy you should know more then most here whats its like on the other side, and how easy would it have been for you to walk away if your husband was mean and vindictive towards you. with emily not allowing her husband to come by and see the kids is kinda mean and vindictive, she would be thinking about herself before her children. the problem they have are between them, not the kids. the problems they have are between them not the kids and this is a good test for the both of them to see if they could get along for a little while. thats my thoughts on this, but remember they are only my thoughts.
